Do you know my husband?

Dear Diary,

When I introduce myself at the workshops I host,  I often include the following description: “I’m single and someone knows my husband and just in case it’s you, please feel free to introduce him!” This is often greeted with lots of laughter and of course no one takes me seriously. But I am single and someone does know my husband, but apparently I don’t know that person yet lol!

I say I am open to a relationship, after all that is the only way to get me the husband I desire, but when challenged by a friend even I had to ask myself am I really serious? My friend broke it down to me in this way: “If I was looking for a job there are certain steps I would follow. I wouldn’t simply sit on the sidelines and say I was open to the possibilities, (a phrase I heard myself say quite often). I would instead be preparing myself for the opportunity and putting myself in front of the right people. I would not be expecting the right job to just drop into my lap.” As I had done none of those things she assumed that I could not be serious.

It made me stop and think

We had this conversation about three or four years ago, so apparently I have done a lot of thinking with very little action as I am still in the same boat. When you put it like that it sounds almost like a lost cause, but we have all been there. We know we need to do something, we may even know what we need to do but for some reason we are short on action. I am, however, the eternal optimist so I had the same conversation with a different friend, in fact I spoke to two friends at the same time. This is probably the point you will remind me that the definition of madness is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results, but I’m sure that’s not what I was doing lol!

You’ve guessed it, the message was the same one I had heard (and ignored) four years ago, but this time I was given a clear directive; join an online dating agency.

I must admit I had been contemplating this course of action, particularly as I was surrounded by plenty of success stories – a friend married from eHarmony, two people married from Christian Connections, and one from Match.com. Clearly there were possibilities and as they say you have to be in it to win it so I resolved to take action and they resolved to follow up on my actions.

But where to start?

I heard about a woman who was a food blogger who wrote about all of her dates as thou they were a meal. That got me thinking and gave me a little more of an incentive. This wasn’t just about me. I was conducting research for my fellow singletons 🙂 Well I had to find a ways to inspire myself to get started so Dear Diary is my assault on the dating world sharing my thoughts, dreams and aspirations. I’m glad that you have come along for the ride.

 

PS. I would love to hear any of your dating stories