Do you believe in love at first sight? I must confess I love the idea of eyes meeting across a crowded space. I actually have my own personal fantasy.
‘I serve in my church and in glorious technicolor I often live out that fantasy. I am standing at the church entrance, there are lots of people arriving and I am busy exchanging hellos and pleasantries. I look up from the crowd and there he is! Our eyes meet and a connection is made. After service we talk and connect and lunch seems like the obvious continuation so he takes me to eat in a fantastic Vegan eatery (the fantasy used to be of a meat eater but now I’m not he isn’t either. Don’t judge, it’s a fantasy!). We talk easily and comfortably for hours and that is the beginning of an exciting love adventure.’ Don’t tell me you don’t have romantic thoughts as well. If you don’t maybe you should.
Back to the question of love at first sight.
My theory is that something magical can occur when two people meet or see each other but it has to be followed up with conversation and communication to deepen the connection and this can then has the potential to build into love. I think the first sight thing is probably more of an invitation to love.
So you can imagine my confusion and distrust when a man, who I shall affectionately call Mr Loverman, tells me he loves me bearing in mind he has only met me once, (briefly) and doesn’t even know my surname! But according to Mr Loverman, when a man sees what he wants it is perfectly acceptable for him to feel this way because a man knows what he wants. A|pparently in this situation he wants me!
Sorry Mr Loverman the feeling is not mutual. I have exchanged pleasantries with you. I have even called you on occasion just to say hello (I’m exercising my openness for a relationship) but your full on attitude – missing me and telling me you love me – is not at all endearing and quite frankly makes me feel just a little bit uneasy. I am sure you are a lovely man, for someone else so stealing the words from Dragons Den “this is not for me I’m out!”